How to Make Others Love You

If somebody wants others to love him or her, first he or she has to love him or herself. Self-love has nothing to do with considering oneself as the object of romantic love; rather, self-love means a person accepting him or herself for who and what he or she is. A self-loved person gives a positive meaning to everything he or she does and everything he or she experiences. This person does not create resistance for him or herself, but rather integrates him or herself smoothly into the flow of events. When someone loves and accepts him or herself he will, in turn, try to teach that outlook to others. Such a person expresses him or herself freely, unconcerned with others' acceptance or rejection of him. This person allows creative energy to flow easily and naturally; for this reason, most successful people have this kind of love for themselves.

In other words, by loving oneself, one can rise above being concerned with the opinions of others. This sort of detachment leads to great self-confidence, a very attractive quality. People surrounding a self-loved person feel the positive energy emanating from him or her. Those around intuitively or subconsciously know that this person has something to offer them, which is the idea of self-love. However, this person must not tell the others bluntly that it is because he loves himself, and that they must love themselves as well; doing so may cause the opposite of the intended effect. He or she may act as a guide for these others, but they must come to understand for themselves what it is to love oneself. Self-love can even make a man express himself freely around women, unconcerned with what they will think. Counter-intuitively, this quality makes him more attractive to them.

Someone who does not appreciate or does judge the joyful self-expressions of another has an unconscious intention of feeding on that other's energy. Such a person does not have his or her own energy, created from within, and so feels the need to drain someone else's. In other words, this person increases his or her own vibration by lowering the vibration of another. However, someone who understands and practices self-love can help raise another's vibration without lowering his or her own. A self-loved person can help other people access their own inner energies, rather than needing to leach from those around them. Someone who feels this need to take energy from others, in short, must learn to love him or herself because love is the emotion with the highest vibration and the source of energy, and someone who already loves him or herself can help.

As previously mentioned, self-love also increases self-confidence. A person doesn't need to learn certain body language patterns to show high self-confidence; this is actually the most difficult approach, and a doomed method. Someone who tries this exterior approach person tries to manipulate from the outermost layer of mind, the conscious mind. He or she is manipulating the effects, not the cause; the cause of his or her insecurity is more deeply rooted, in the more subtle inner layers of the mind.

In subtler and more fundamental layers of matter, manipulation is more powerful; this is why way a scientist will try to manipulate the sub-atomic layer rather than the molecular one when he needs more energy (i.e. the atomic bomb). The person who tries to create confidence only from the most external layer of him or herself is doomed to failure because the problem resides in the subconscious mind. To increase his or her self-confidence, this person needs to adjust his or her perception of what happens in life and his or her own role in it; to give a positive meaning to events and experiences, to focus more on achievements rather than what was not achieved, to praise him or herself and to practice self-affirmation; that is, to tell him or herself: "I am good, I am strong, I am successful." Over time it will have a great positive impact on his whole being, including body language.

Nobody is created for nothing; everybody has a place in the grand scheme of things. All life has a purpose, and self-love allows for unique self-expression, which in turn helps a person discover and fulfill his or her life's purpose.

The world needs the ideas of every human being. That's why the internet is very important nowadays; it connects people and enables them to share their ideas. Such communication is an innate urge of consciousness inherited from deeper, non-physical levels. However, with the internet, communication between every individual with the world as a whole is, at present, being accomplished on the physical layer of the universe. This allows the mental potential of humanity to be exploited more efficiently. The full utilization of humanity's potential is needed more than ever in the world nowadays.

Comparison to others is highly detrimental to unique self-expression. It is a learned habit from childhood, and continued throughout one's life. In large part this habit is perpetuated by organizations that exploit the comparison habit to make money. They create unattainable models of behavior, beauty, or anything else which is supposed to bring happiness to the masses. But this is quite an illusion; the only true path to happiness and freedom is through unique self-expression.

People should not be afraid that they are not telling the truth when they attempt self-expression. There are no absolute truths in this world. There are only half truths. What's more, subjective human-related truths are more important than the objective material-related ones. Therefore, it does not matter what ideas somebody expresses; those ideas are true for that person and may be helpful for others. By expressing oneself, a person will resonate with others like him or herself. He or she will feel even more fulfilled when he or she experiences a reflection of him or herself from others. This is what is known as creating one's own reality; that is why people are here: to express themselves and be loved by themselves and others.